Should Born Again Married Christians Do Oral Sex?

I don’t know if you are ensnaring me, or you are genuine in this question because you are well educated enough as a married woman to know about oral sex. First and foremost, all sex must be under the guise of marriage or for betrothed couples. All sex done out of marriage or within marriage with a third party is sin; it is either fornication or adultery. Nowadays, most youths practice oral sex because they think that it is safer. Unfortunately though, CDC says most STDs like gonorrhea, Chlamydia, herpes and even HIV/AIDS could still be contracted from oral sex. You can also get throat cancer from oral sex. Sexual intercourse could even be safer as one could use condoms, but I doubt that many use condoms. Thus, those who are doing it for safety may want to think twice.

Sex is a spiritual act, so only the Spirit puts limitations. To the best of my recollections, the Bible does not define how Christians should have sex; it tells us that sex must be in marriage. Nonetheless, permit me delve into the sacrosanct topic.

The fact that the Bible does not prescribe the type and method of sex amongst couples, it is left for the couples to consent on what is acceptable and what is not.  Some have concluded that because oral sex does not lead to procreation, then it is sin. However, the intent of the marriage institution was not only for procreation. It was for the aversion of loneliness and to secure a helpmeet in the process of catering for the garden. Thus, sex becomes the vehicle through which humanity replenishes the earth via procreation.

It would seem oral sex appears in the bible in versification rather than prosaic language, by eisegesis rather than exegesis. Consequently, the interpretation greatly differs from one Christian to another. It is really difficult to equate the word fruit in Songs of Solomon 2:3 to the penis and fruits in 4:16 to the vagina (thus setting the stage to defend the presence of oral sex in the Bible) because the word fruit has been used differently in the bible.

If used as actions (Mt 7:16), it will mean the actions of her beloved are agreeable to her. Fruit is used as offspring (Ex 21:22; Ezek 47:12-precisely first child), but there is no mention in the Bible that they had children. Consequently, it will not mean children. Fruit is used as produce (Lev. 23:39; 25:3, 21; Prov. 10:16; Is.27:6). Bearing in mind that the beloved had an orchard, it is acceptable to believe that what she was eating is the direct definition of the ovary and edible part of plant she harvested or he gave her.

 Nonetheless, Christians are free people, so they should use their freedom to consensually explore that which is acceptable to God and can procure them happiness. Oral sex could be a great exercise if the genital organ is kept clean. I have had some spouses confess to me that they don’t do oral sex because an unclean vagina traumatizes them. I am sure it is same for some women. If you do it and are worried that you are sinning, then you are really sinning because anything not done in faith is a sin (Rom 14:23).

Until then, I am unable to determine the certification or decertification of oral sex in the Bible.

St Arrey of Ntenako